Archive January 27, 2019

My Brain Made Me Do It

Every innovation has its unintended consequences.

In Chapter 1 of Healing People, Not Patients, I talk about the revolutionary new curriculum at my medical school in 1999, which taught the basic sciences of medicine by organ system, instead of the old arrangement of anatomy, physiology, pathology, and pharmacology.  We got all four of those at once, system by system.

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Answered Prayer?

In Hebrew the word for “answer,” teshuva, comes from the same root as the word “return,” shuv.

So when someone returns a prayerbook to you, is it an answered prayer? You remember the one – the one I thought would never come back, the one that was a silent witness to a massacre. It came back to me this week, wrapped in white archival paper and tied with a string. My most heartfelt thanks to Eric Lidji, from the Rauh Jewish Archives, for putting the pieces together when he read my previous post about it and realized he had seen the book.

I am praying from this book again, feeling like it is possible to once again feel that I am my prayer. I am hearing by email from the friend who I prayed for in that piece. I am able to feel hope again.

I see people every day who were broken by tragedy, devastated by illness. sometimes decades ago. This week I feel like even for them, there is still hope we can return them to wholeness. We can give them an answer. The world may never be the same – but it will be better than it is now.

The Empathy Switch

What position is your empathy switch in?

I’m a few chapters into Brian Goldman’s new book, The Power of Kindness, about his journey to figure out what happened to his capacity for empathy over a career as an emergency physician.  Goldman’s first stop takes him to some researchers from Laval University in Quebec, who tell him that everyone empathizes – that it’s natural and instinctive for human beings to feel what others feel.

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Dire Straits

We exchanged a series of sheepish looks as she spoke – Kelly with me, me with her daughter, her daughter back to her.

“Everything on the left side – first the neck, now the leg, what’s next?  The stomach?  The kidney?”

She was wrong, though.  There had been a problem, the right shoulder and neck, with almost the same symptoms.  This went away, then the identical complaint returned in the other shoulder.  I reminded her of this.  We all laughed, but it did not ease the frustration for any of us.

“You’re right.  I just seem to get better from one thing so something else can go wrong.”

I’ve always been captivated by the power of the Exodus narrative as a parallel for illness.  The Exodus from Egypt is crucial to understanding the Jewish take on the world, but there is a certain universal appeal.  In the first chapter of Healing People, Not Patients, I recall how my teacher, Rabbi Larry Heimer, introduced me to an interpretation of the Exodus by Rabbi Yitz Greenberg that shaped how he, and in turn I, thought about illness.

The Hebrew for Egypt, Mitzrayim, is the equivalent of the English, “in dire straits” – stuck in a narrow place from which escape seems impossible.  Greenberg explains that by being in bondage in “Dire Straits,” the Israelites were in a state that God never intended human beings to endure.  Slavery is not the natural condition of humanity.  The Exodus, in turn, is proof that when humanity suffers, God hears, and God cares, and God acts.

Modern humans stand in for God in acting to relieve each other’s suffering, including getting each other out of dire straits.  The Exodus imagery is supposed to remind us that healing is possible, and that we are supposed to reach out our arms and perform some signs and wonders of our own to make it happen.  Modern medicine is nothing, if not signs and wonders galore.

But chronic illness confounds the metaphor.  If illness in general is Mitzrayim, then chronic disease is Pharoah.  “I’ll let you go.  On second thought….  Naaaah, changed my mind.  Back to work!  Build those pyramids!” 

The plagues are powerful medicine, to be sure.  “Frogs?  No, not frogs!  I give!  You can go!”  But no sooner do the Israelites start packing to leave than Pharoah has another change of his hardened heart.  Kelly can relate; every time we unleash a good plague of muscle relaxers on one pain, her personal Pharoah comes back with a vengeance in a different limb. 

If you don’t believe Kelly, ask Yuri, ready to return to work after a long illness, smiling and hopeful in my office one week, only to return two weeks later because the dizzy spells returned after only three days on the job.

Or ask a cancer survivor, finally daring to dream and plan again after 4 ½ years of living scan to scan, who learns of a spot on the 5-year scan that means he is back to square one – only with fewer options.

Ask a person finally ready to cut the cord from medication after a long journey with depression, only to find herself on the edge of the precipice once more after the unexpected death of a close relative.

For the person living with chronic illness, there is a problem with the Exodus narrative.  For all that God promises, that doctors like me who have a hard time remembering that we are not God promise, and for all that we may deliver on some of our promises, at the end of the Exodus from one sickness, after the crossing of the Red Sea that is the ringing of the Mayo Clinic oncology bell, the return to work, the dancing at a wedding, for all that, the true end result of the Exodus is to find yourself wandering in the desert for 40 years, relapsing and remitting, having good days and lousy ones, until someone who is not you eventually gets to see the promised land of being chronically well.

A couple of nights ago, I participated in a Twitter chat called #medhumchat, discussing the poem “Intensive Care” (and if you like what I write you should participate too; shout out to Colleen Farrel, MD, aka @medhumchat for coming up with this).  The poet likens the ICU to a ship adrift at sea, with no instruments – even though the ICU has instruments coming out the wazoo (sadly, both literally and figuratively).  It is the kind of ship likely to end up stuck in a narrow place – to be caught in Dire Straits.

I’m not sure how to change this story.  The Israelites of the original Exodus wandered because they were still stuck mentally in their narrow place, never truly believing they had the agency to be free.  I think we may be making the same mistake – so stuck in the narrow place of a disease model that envisioning well, especially sustained wellness, is impossible for us. 

How else to explain my shock when I meet a person over 80 who tells me they take no regularly scheduled medications?  How else to articulate why I get worried, not happy, that someone I care for frequently drops from the radar for 2 or 3 years?  It couldn’t, God forbid, be that they are well – there must be something terribly wrong that isn’t getting my attention, right?

The way to change the story, I think, is to realize there’s another way to read the analogy.  Yes, the person with the chronic illness is like the Israelites in Mitzrayim – but so is the healer.  Until we healers learn to stop saying, “No, you’ll need to take that medicine for the rest of your life, side effects or not,” or to stop telling people to cancel vacations and grand plans, or to stop acting like the purpose of old age is to stay safe instead of to live, we are all destined to be stuck here in Dire Straits.

At least they have a good house band….

The next #medhumchat will be at 9 pm on January 16; search the hashtag on Twitter to find out which readings Colleen has chosen and join in!  I found it a great antidote to my own Dire Straits – a really good way to read situations differently.

First Podcast!

I’m very excited to announce that tomorrow, January 2, 2019, I will be the guest on the next episode of the Pitchwerks podcast, hosted by Pittsburgh’s own Scot MacTaggart. Scot and I discuss how being a “healer who listens” goes beyond just being customer service, whether honoring someone’s humanity means I can’t say “no” to a request, and what comes next now that Healing People, Not Patients is published. Please listen in, and thank Scot for me by liking and subscribing to the podcast, which features weekly interviews with people who are not only doing well, but doing good. Special thanks to my longtime friend Russell Goldstein for making this awesome connection.

UPDATE 1/2/19: The podcast episode is now live! Click here to download or listen online, and don’t forget to do Scot a solid and subscribe while you’re on the page.

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